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Sex Talks

The 5 Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life

Audiobook (Includes supplementary content)
1 of 2 copies available
1 of 2 copies available
The definitive guide to creating the sex life of your wildest dreams—just by talking about it!—from sexpert couple Vanessa and Xander Marin.

INSTANT NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER
AARP.org Books to Improve Your Love Life
Why is it so hard to talk about sex, even with the person who regularly sees you naked?

You know communication is important in a relationship, but you just don't know how to get started with such a sensitive subject. Maybe you've never talked about sex at all, and the thought of it makes your palms sweat. Or you're feeling so disconnected from your partner that sex is the last thing on your mind. Maybe you're too scared to be honest about what you really want. Or you have no freaking clue what you want, so you're not sure how to tell your partner anything helpful!

Sex Talks "helps us overcome the myths that drag us down" (John Gottman, New York Times bestselling author of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work). Together, sex therapist Vanessa Marin and her husband, Xander, show you that the best thing you can do for your sex life doesn't even involve taking off your clothes.

Sex Talks covers the five essential conversations every couple needs to have:
1. Acknowledgement: a.k.a. "Sex is a thing, and we have it."
2. Connection: a.k.a. "What do we need to feel connected to each other?"
3. Desire: a.k.a. "What do we each need to get turned on?"
4. Pleasure: a.k.a. "What do we each need to feel good?"
5. Exploration: a.k.a. "What should we try next?"

With gripping storytelling and an intimate peek at what really goes on behind other couples' closed bedroom doors, Vanessa and Xander share their successful advice that has already helped thousands of clients. Sex Talks "redefines what it means to have great sex" (Logan Ury, author of How to Not Die Alone), providing the sex education you wish you'd had, plus the tried-and-tested tools you need to create the sex life of your wildest dreams.
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    • Publisher's Weekly

      January 2, 2023
      In this approachable debut, sex therapist Vanessa Marin and husband Xander Marin propose that better communication makes for better sex. Marin asserts that, though often discouraged by social or religious taboos, frank discussion about sex is vital for couples looking to improve both physical and emotional intimacy. Debunking Hollywood portrayals of sex with “chemistry so intense you can... feel it through the screen,” Marin urges readers to abandon notions of “sexual perfection” and open up about one’s desires to a partner. Marin outlines how to begin the conversation (“talking about sex has to start with even acknowledging ” ) and to discuss connection, desire, pleasure, and exploration. Chapters contain useful suggestions for handling potential conversational pitfalls, and sample questions (“What are your three to five favorite ways to receive love?”). Marin also strives for inclusivity for readers of all sexual orientations. Periodic asides from Xander complement Marin’s therapist’s perspective with “regular dude” commentary on the same issues, suggesting, for example, low-pressure ways to initiate intimidating conversations. Compassionate and witty, Marin makes what many find a challenging discussion manageable, even for readers with little idea of where to start. Anyone looking to improve their communication with a partner will find valuable takeaways.

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